Are You Struggling With One or More of Your Important Relationships?
Are you and your partner, coworker or family member dealing with communication problems shaped by silence, outbursts, resentment or criticism? Has ease and pleasure in your life been replaced by stress, irritation, loneliness or even anger? Perhaps unresolved arguments or feelings of shame have created communication barriers, and you don’t feel comfortable approaching your spouse, boss or family member. Or, maybe you’re single, and you’ve focused so long on your career that you feel overwhelmed by even the idea of looking for a potential partner. Or, perhaps you are considering a separation from your spouse and think that divorce counseling could help. It may be that you want to cultivate a closer relationship with your child(ren), but aren’t sure where to start. Do you often feel unheard or unappreciated in your interpersonal relationships? Do you wish you could heal challenging relationship problems and better connect with the important people in your life?
Consistent tension or conflict in your day-to-day and/or significant relationships can be a lonely, confusing, frustrating and overwhelming experience. Relationship stress can impact every aspect of your life and leave you feeling hopeless, irritable and unable to focus on anything but the pain of disconnection. If you spend a lot of time thinking about the relationship in turmoil and feel like you don’t have the tools to deal with the situation, you may be close to giving up, questioning if healing is even feasible. Likewise, if you’re going through divorce or have been single for a long time, you may feel uncertain about the future, worry that you’re ill equipped to handle life on your own or question if it’s possible to find someone that you love and trust.
Everyone Experiences Relationship Challenges
Everyone experiences conflict in relationships—especially in today’s world. With our busy lives, financial concerns and the prevalence of social media, it’s becoming increasingly common for people to experience heightened levels of stress and isolation. Happy images of others on social media sites can cause you to feel as though you’re falling short of unspoken expectations and create a negative cycle of thoughts that fuels low self-esteem. The pressure to succeed also makes it common to prioritize work and other activities over relationships, leaving little time to spend with those you care about. Although it’s normal for people to disagree, face challenges and become irritated with one another, if you’re consistently preoccupied with how you’re going to confront or navigate relationship challenges, relationship counseling can help. A skilled and compassionate relationship therapist can provide you with the insight and practical steps needed to bring more ease and connection into your everyday life.
Relationship Counseling Can Provide You With Support, Guidance And Communication Tools
Although your relationship difficulties may seem hopeless right now, help is available. In relationship therapy, you can learn practical communication skills that you can use not only with your spouse or partner but with your friends, family members and coworkers, too. You can develop effective tools to help overcome problems of communication and learn to skillfully listen to your emotions, express yourself honestly and create greater harmony in your life.
In a compassionate, warm environment you can explore your innermost concerns and desires and feel supported as you learn how to mitigate conflicts, fights and avoidance. We may talk about redefining and respecting a new set of boundaries that feel comfortable and reasonable for both you and the person you’re at odds with. You can also learn to identify the warning signs of anger or sadness in your body so you can effectively lessen and even prevent harmful outbursts or avoidant behavior. As you become more empowered to navigate your relationships in healthy ways, you can also learn to communicate your needs and get them met in the relationship.
In addition to learning practical methods to better navigate day-to-day relationships and conflicts, we can also explore your personality, family of origin and past relationships and identify the root cause that continues to drive relationship challenges. There are motivations for every behavior, and you can learn your personal patterns as well as language you’ll need to describe those feelings, which can help you break free of the thinking and behavioral cycles that are keeping you stuck. You can also talk through specific challenges you’ve had with this particular person and develop insight into the other person’s experience. Once you’ve increased self-awareness and better understand where your relationship conflicts stem from, we can work collaboratively as you make empowered changes in your life. You can learn to manage difficulties differently, allowing for lasting and profound growth and transformation.
If you’re single and feel underprepared to find the right person or enter the dating world, counseling can help you identify why certain relationships in the past were unsuccessful develop a sense of what you want and need from a romantic relationship moving forward. When you’re able to identify what you want, we can then practice effective communication techniques that allow to feel heard and get your needs met. Likewise, if you’re recently divorced, we can help you effectively cope with the stress associated with this big change, and empower you as you heal and move on.
We are licensed clinical social workers with extensive experience working with couples, families and people struggling to navigate relationships with friends and coworkers as well as recent divorcees and those who are struggling to find romantic partnership. As we work together, we will tailor our approach to best address and support your history, personality, needs, concerns and therapy goals. With relationship help and guidance, you can bring love, stability and ease into your life and experience profound personal discovery and growth.
You still may have some questions and concerns about relationship therapy…
Does counseling actually help?
Wondering if counseling really works is a valid concern, and it’s often the case that the people we see have already tried other counselors or therapeutic techniques with little success. However, in my empowered therapy sessions, you will receive tailor-made, specific relationship advice that you can use to immediately start alleviating conflict, neglect and injustice within the important relationships in your life. With support and solution-focused guidance from an experienced relationship therapist, you can effectively address challenges, improve the bond in your relationship and experience positive, lasting change.
I’ve heard relationship counseling can be expensive.
Although there is a cost involved in this work, therapy is an investment in the most valuable thing you have—you. When your mental health is being compromised, it can affect every aspect of your life, including your performance at work, the connection in your relationships and even your physical health. When you feel balanced and good, it opens opportunities to invite hope and happiness into your life. Left unresolved, relationship issues can become even more complicated and feelings of anxiety, sadness and yearning can worsen. The most important question to ask yourself is: Are you getting what you want out of your relationships and your life? Don’t let money stand in the way of discovering joy. Relationship therapy could not only save you emotional and monetary costs down the road, but it can also provide the opportunity for you to be vulnerable and ask for what you need.
How long does relationship therapy take? I’m very busy and worried I don’t have time for this.
We offer all our clients flexible scheduling options to accommodate for busy schedules and needs. That said, we do ask for you to commit to one session once a week, or every other week, so that we can thoroughly, consistently and effectively address the problems you face. You may soon find that allowing time to process distress actually saves you a tremendous amount of time during your week.
Relationship Counseling Can Empower You To Create Positive Change
If you’re struggling with relationship problems in the Chicago area and are interested in learning more about relationship counseling, we invite you to call 312-729-5089 for a free 15-minute consultation to learn more about our practice and how we can help you.