Friends are some of the most important and significant people in our lives, but when friendships begin to feel more like work, it may be a sign that the friendship is turning toxic. A toxic friendship can be difficult to spot, but it is important for your overall well-being to explore your relationships and their impact on you and emotional health.
How do I know if my friendship is toxic?
There is no “one size fits all” approach to determining if your relationship with someone is a toxic one, but it is important to take notice if you are experiencing any of the following in your friendships
- Extreme Selfishness: You notice that your friend is only willing to do things that benefit him/her and that they are very inflexible when it comes to accommodating your needs. They do not ask much about your life, and are preoccupied with their accomplishments or issues in their lives.
- Lack of Responsibility: A toxic friend has a difficult time taking responsibility for their part in any given situation. They play the victim or put the responsibility back on you.
- Difficulty Celebrating Your Accomplishments: You get engaged, buy a home, have a victory at work, or start your own business, but your friend does not acknowledge or celebrate your accomplishments. Instead, a toxic friend typically ignores your victories and focus on their own issues or accomplishments.
How Should I Move On From A Toxic Friendship?
Acknowledging that a friendship is toxic can be painful, but the process of moving on from this type of relationship will serve you in the long run. You can begin to distance yourself from this friend, and remember that you do not need to necessarily explain yourself when you begin to emotionally separate from him or her. A toxic friend may not be emotionally available for your explanation anyways, so it can be best to just slowly move on from the relationship. It is important that you mourn the loss of this relationship, while also recognizing that your emotional health will benefit from separating from someone who is unsupportive, selfish, and does not participate in his or her part of the relationship.
If you would like to work on your relationships and need more strategies and tools for doing so, please feel free to reach out to me for a free 15-minute consultation at 312-729-5089.