By: Larisa Garski, LMFT
Change might be one of life’s most frustrating experiences. It often sounds like a great idea on paper:
- Change your job
- Change your workout
- Change up your routine with your partner
It promises adventure and new growth. The excitement of unexplored paths and a chance to shake off the daily grind. In comparison habits – patterns and routine that form the connective tissue of our day – often get a bad rap as the dull counterpoint to change. But habits are comforting – they help us to feel whole, grounded, and safe. And while change promises excitement, it often requires slow, diligent effort to be achieved.
Balancing Change with Restorative Routine
In my work with clients, we try to balance change with restorative habits. Not all routines are bad. In fact, daily practices that lift us up can be incredibly helpful during that middle phase of change when we’re putting in maximum effort but seeing little reward. Below are three ways you can start to balance change with restorative habits:
- Start small: You don’t need to change everything in your life all at once. Spend some time considering the 1 or 2 aspects that you would like to be different. Then, make a list of the steps you think you need to get there. This can be especially helpful later on as a reflection point.
- Keep what nourishes: Before you start a new exercise routine or a new job search, take some time to remind yourself of the routines in your life that you love. Maybe it’s that first cup of coffee in the morning or the walk to the train station at night. Whatever it is, taking extra care with these positive routines as you begin to change other parts of your life can you help you to feel both grounded and safe during this new time of transition.
- Get an outsider’s perspective: When we are working hard to create new growth but seeing little results, it can be incredibly helpful to have another person as both a guide and witness to the journey. A therapist can help you find new tools for change and celebrate the small but meaningful changes you have accomplished on your journey towards your final goal.
As a therapist who specializes in anxiety, relationships, and adjusting to life’s transitions, I am here to help you welcome both change and balance into your life. If you would like to more information about how I can help, please feel free to call me at 651-764-7277 for a free 15-minute consultation.